The biological reality is that men go through their own hormonal transition at midlife. It’s slower and more gradual than menopause, which is part of why it’s so easy to miss. And its effects on mental health are significant, under-recognized, and almost never addressed in therapy. 

When most people picture depression, they picture sadness. Someone crying, someone unable to get out of bed, someone who looks visibly broken. 

That image isn’t wrong — but it’s incomplete. And for men, it can be dangerously misleading. 

You’ve been telling yourself it’s just stress. The job, the kids, the mortgage, the relentless grind of keeping everything running. Of course you’re tired. Of course you’re irritable. Who wouldn’t be?